Debbie Bolger, LMHC

Helping children, adolescents, and families improve their sense of well‑being, alleviate feelings of distress, and resolve crises.

The Find Your AND framework — because growth happens when we learn to hold two truths at once.

About Debbie

Debbie Bolger is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), Executive Function Coach, and Learning Specialist based in Westchester, NY, with 20+ years of clinical experience working with children, adolescents, and families.

She is the creator of the Find Your AND framework — a clinically grounded approach rooted in DBT that helps parents and kids build psychological flexibility by learning to hold two truths at once. The question at the heart of her work: “What else is also true?”

In addition to her private practice, Debbie previously served as Director of Teaching and Learning and as a Learning Specialist at Riverdale Country School. She offers in-person therapy in Westchester, NY and virtual Executive Function coaching nationwide.

Contact Debbie

Services

Therapy

Promoting social and emotional awareness, learning, and growth in children, adolescents, and their parents.

Areas of psychological specialization include but are not limited to:
ADHD
Anxiety
Mood Dysregulation
Depression
Self-Esteem
Social Skills

Academic Support

Helping students and families to customize strategies, strengthen academic skills, and build mindfulness while identifying goals and creating action plans.

Areas of academic specialization include but are not limited to:
Executive Functioning Attention/Concentration
Study Skills
Reading Comprehension
Written Expression

Parenting Groups

Providing education and guidance and utilizing personal interaction with people who have shared experiences to help each individual process, cope, and grow.

Workshops:
See upcoming live workshops below.

Past groups:
College readiness
Parenting an anxious child

Executive Function Coach

Supporting college students to strengthen executive functioning skills and thrive independently. Coaching sessions focus on building structure, accountability, and strategies tailored to each student’s unique needs.

Weekly or biweekly 1:1 coaching sessions (via Zoom)
Semester-based enrollment
Optional check-ins and tools for accountability

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Live Virtual Workshops

Practical, clinically grounded workshops for parents who want to understand their child, and themselves, more deeply. Because skillful kids start with skillful parents.

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The Find Your AND Framework

What else is also true?

That’s the question at the heart of everything I do. It’s a deceptively simple tool, rooted in DBT’s dialectical thinking, that helps parents and kids hold two truths at once instead of getting stuck in all-or-nothing thinking.

I love my child AND I’m completely exhausted.

I want to help AND I don’t know how.

My kid is struggling AND they are capable.

The AND doesn’t fix the tension. It creates the space to think, feel, and respond with more flexibility — for parents and kids alike.

Virtual Workshops

Skillful Parents, Skillful Kids: The AND Workshop Series

Before They Go: EF Skills Every College-Bound Student Needs

July 8 / 7pm

When They Lose It: Parenting the Dysregulated Child Without Losing Yourself

[Date TBD]

Homework Battles Are Not About Homework

[Date TBD]

Approach

Debbie uses both a psychodynamic and evidence-based approach to therapy, specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Therapy is tailored to each individual’s unique needs.

Debbie’s clinical approach is the foundation of the Find Your AND framework — a practical tool for building psychological flexibility in parents, children, and teens.

Insurance

Debbie does not participate in any insurance plans. However, each client will receive a statement containing the necessary information to submit for out-of-network reimbursement.